Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I stay or should I go now?

If I go there will be trouble…if I stay there will be double

So you gotta let me know…should I stay or should I go?

The Clash


To quote my friend Krista’s comment from my last post, “Club soccer is an interesting beast.”  After my last post we decided to make some changes for my little soccer girl.  She truly loves soccer and is a strong and skilled player.  A team that has lost its core group and would be basically starting over wasn’t really the place for her.  Besides, forget about her, I needed to escape the drama!

We’ve only played for one club and Big Soccer Girl will be staying there for her fifth year.  She is very excited about her new coach and her team and it’s a great situation for her.  The coaching change has lead her to rediscover her love for the game and it definitely shows on the field.  I wasn’t sure what this year held for her, but so far it has been wonderful to watch.

As for Little Soccer Girl, we were extremely fortunate to find a high level team at a new club with a coach that is enthusiastic, skilled and personable.  She and her friend both made the switch official this week and couldn’t be more excited.  Of course I’m sad for the team we left behind, but really that team doesn’t exist any more.  I am very grateful to our former coach for all of his time and energy that he put into my little girl and her skills are a testament to his coaching excellence.  But, I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I can now put all my priorities in order. (well…kind of…now I have to spend a lot more time in the car…)

I’m not sure how appropriate it is to quote The Clash and The Bible in the same post, but hey, that’s just who I am.  Questions have been answered and a new season has started.  I’m ready to not take it all so seriously.


There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

 Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

4 thoughts on “Should I Stay or Should I Go?

  1. So excited for you and your dd’s new team. I can totally relate on not taking things so seriously… Hope to get to meet you on the pitch soon!

  2. I found your website while googling so cal soccer stuff and found your blog…I can so relate! We live in San Diego and just switched clubs this year for our daughter to play for the “academy 1” team of one of the 8 super clubs you mentioned and while it was a tough decision (and felt strange talking about it with the other families of our last club while we were considering it), we knew it was the right one for our girl. I was actually doing research on coast vs. scdsl when I found your blog…our coach has made a decision to play the scdsl instead of the presidio league. I am trying to understand what this scene is like since all we’ve known is the presidio league! thanks for the informative blog!

    1. Hi Clare- Thanks so much for reading and for the comment! It is hard to switch clubs and feels totally strange, but it sounds like you’ve made a great choice. We all have to do what is right for our own kids. I’m sure your coach has good reasons for wanting to play in SCDSL and I hope it doesn’t mean too much driving for you. Keep us posted on how it goes. Lisa

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